Dating compared to marriage
These critics point out that in most areas of popular American culture, rarely do you see the opposite happening -- Asian males being the subjects of infatuation or sexual desire by White women.In fact, these critics point out that Asian males have been and continue to be purposely portrayed as non-sexual martial arts experts, nerds and geeks, or evil villains and that this portrayal serves to eliminate Asian males as potential rivals to White males for the affection of Asian women.These critiques also don't point out that patriarchy and sexism still exists within many elements of traditional Asian culture.In other words, these outdated beliefs can be very restrictive and stifling when it comes to the range of options Asian women have in choosing a marriage partner.
As one particularly stark example of the "cultural penalty" that many Asian American men face when it comes to dating and overcoming the cultural stereotypes against them, a team of economists at MIT recently analyzed the dating preferences of users of online dating sites (PDF of the study, 1.5mb).However painful or grating they may be, it is necessary for us to look at how both Asian American men and women can become the targets of objectification and how this reinforces and perpetuates ethnic stereotypes against both.Fortunately, that is not always the story for many, even most interracial relationships.At first glance, these statistics may seem rather unbelievable since they tend to show very high levels of intermarriages, especially among Koreans and Filipinos. S.-raised only represent less than 20% of all marriages involving Asian Americans.Many readers will undoubtedly argue that these numbers do not correspond to their own personal experiences and observations. First, keep in mind that these numbers are only for marriages in which both spouses are U. Second, other related research shows that intermarriages are much more common outside of the major urban areas where most young Asian Americans lives.In Table 5.6 (page 49) of the study, they found that when it came to the dating preferences of White women, their first preference was to date a White man, which is not suprising nor uncommon.But their data showed that the White women in the study would also consider dating men or color, but only if he made As I noted, these theories and criticisms can sound rather one-sided.Therefore, an Asian American may marry a White person because s/he (consciously or unconsciously) wants to be fully accepted in White society.However, to many people, this theory sounds rather condescending since it presumes that the only reason why an Asian American would marry a White would be to fulfill a need for acceptance.Combined with the cultural stereotypes or fetish of Asian women, many scholars argue these can be some factors that affect why many males (particularly White males) are attracted to Asian women.In this sense, Asian women are not seen as equal partners but rather, as sexual objects to be controlled and used by the male.